Monday, July 15, 2013

Tools for Finding Your Way Out of the Maze #1

Let go of what you aren't good at!

I am a non-linear thinker.  My experience of time, structure, and productivity are very different than the linear thinking person.  I'm sure you can relate to that if you are a non-linear person or if you have many ADD/ADHD traits.  Because of these traits, I have found myself frequently lost in the expectations of structure and output that our largely linear society creates.  And it beats down on my sense of who I am like the midday sun of South Texas beating down on the sidewalk.  I absorb it and have a hard time letting it go.

I recently watched a video by Dr. Hallowell, a Harvard trained psychiatrist who has ADHD and is dyslexic.  You can watch that video below:

At one point in the video, Dr. Hallowell talks about how people with ADD/ADHD are great at a LOT of things, but that at some point you have to stop trying to get good at what you are not good at and work on developing the things you ARE good at.

This really struck a cord with me.  How many things am I hanging onto that really need to just be let go?  How many hobbies, lifestyle changes, goals, almost-good-at habits have I been allowing to clutter up my playing field?  NO WONDER I'M NOT MORE PRODUCTIVE!

So today I am making a list of what I will stop trying to be good at.  I might continue to pursue these as a part of our overall lifestyle, but I officially giving myself permission to be bad at them.  I'm giving myself permission to half-ass them!

Gardening is at the top of the list!  Fitting into society and meeting societal expectations is next!  And there are a whole lot of other things after that. 

By letting go of many of these things that I have been gathering around me, it knocks down the walls of the maze and creates a much clearer path to where I want to be.  And as a non-linear person, I don't need MORE distractions.  I need to create a path that is focused, so that when I lose my focus it is still to something that takes me further along the path.

You can do that same.  Find three things today that are extraneous, non-essential and have created struggle.  Officially give yourself permission to suck at them, ignore them, and move down the list of priorities.  Way down that list!

What expectations for yourself have you been holding onto?  Which of these is it time to let go of and kick to the curb?